From Tight to Blossoming

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” Anais Nin

There comes a time when we have had enough of our lives as they are and we need to make a change, we need to ask for more: more life, more freedom, more challenges, more growth, more depth, more openness, more authenticity, more love, more kindness, and more gentleness.  How do the people around us respond or react when we make a change? Do they move along, join the new tango or do they stay in the old two-step?  Do they stop and judge, and say you shouldn’t want more and ask what is wrong with what you have right here.

In our lives is it okay to settle, tolerate, and hope beyond hope something will change – stay small, keep the peace, stay comfortable, stay safe and not step out of the self defined box and habits. When we bring awareness and allowance to our self defined box and habits we can blossom to natural change in our environment and relationships.

In many ways our sexuality and intimate lives replicate this.   I remember one of my teachers saying go where the “Yes’s” are Myola, this is pioneering work and don’t try and convince the No’s. Follow the Yes’s.  For a long time I applied this to my work and professional life which improved remarkably, became fun, grew and continues to develop. Then one day I had a realisation that another step would be to apply this to my personal life and go with the “Yes’s” i.e. go with the people that supported, encouraged, loved, had my back, did what they said they would do, laughed, cried, met me on multiple levels and enjoyed and saw me exactly as I am.  Suddenly the people who didn’t, seemed to stand out like ………. A neon light.

This realisation led me to make some changes within my world.

My personal and professional life are always fluid and are becoming more congruent all the time.  I continue to ask and sense where the “Yes’s” are.  It is no longer okay for me to be with people who are only okay with some of me, and the added bonus of this is that it seems to actualise in the world as well.

Where in your life are you remaining tight as a bud?

Where is it time to blossom?

What can then happen is the sweet spot, the ripeness where the flower moves from tight to blossoming with ease, possibly birthed with guidance from someone experienced in the art of blossoming and birthing.

I have many ways of assisting people from tight as a bud to blossoming in their own way and time.  If you would like to discuss your specific area of tightness please contact me.

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