4 Alternatives To Hollywood Movies For Intimate Education

Would you use the movies for driving education, imagine using Fast and Furious for your next drive to the shop, for all our sakes I am hoping you are saying:

“No”

Watching these movies is entertainment, an escape from reality yet in our intimate relations we desire the opposite, we are mammals we are designed for connection and touch. Where do we learn about intimacy, communication, sex and touch – usually from sources that are focused on dis-ease and dysfunction or entertainment.

The statement I often hear is “I am old enough to know this stuff!” if you have never looked into learning something – how would you expect to know it? Of course, in all things some people have a natural knack yet for the rest of us it is practice that makes the difference, builds the skills and knowledge, then it becomes natural and looks easeful.

What ways are there to learn sex and intimate education?

Informal education:
• Role models
• By experience – trial and error

Formal education:
• Seeking for ourselves – books / youtube
• Attending workshops / classes / programs

Role Models

Who were your sexual role models?
Have you ever thought about it?
How did your parents display affection?
Was sex, pleasure and sensuality discussed?

Generally we don’t have quality role models in sexuality. It is only as I have grown and participated in learning through workshops and festivals that I have meet people I consider role models. Our society keeps us in a very narrow viewpoint of love-making, bodies, sexiness, connection, pleasure and orgasmicness and if we are not curious we can believe this is all there is.

Do you need to find some new role models?

By experience trial & error

We have watched a bit of porn, surely we know what we are doing, mostly we go along hoping we have “THE” spot and often we don’t know.

The amount of stories I hear in my role as a Somatic Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach show that trial and error without the elements of curiosity, play, feedback & mutual pleasure is someone fishing around in the dark trying, hoping that it will be ok.

Is this your method? “This one time I think this worked let me try it again but I just can’t find the same angle.”

Formal Education:
Books, Youtube, online courses

Reading about sex, relationships, positions, and spots, watching the strokes wondering if you can make them work

Without practice, without action, it is still in your mind. In my mind I have the voice of an angel, in reality people hide when I begin to sing.

You can read, listen to all the books/videos/audios you like to learn a new language, how to cook or to play a new instrument but until you have actually begun to use it – this is when the knowledge moves from your head to your body.

All of these are great ways to begin, keep enhancing your skills in a non invasive and on your terms and comfortability, because if you get embarrassed only you will know (wink wink). The key here is to discover different ways of connection and love making, in order for us to be our fully expressed selves with as many means as possible.

Attending workshops / classes / programs

“Why would we want to be in a room with other people speaking of such things?”

Was school education a bad experience for you, my high school sex education was all about not getting pregnant and dis-ease. There was never any discussion on what might constitute love making, connection, and encouragement that playful exploration and discovering pleasure throughout the body was possible instead of instructions of “Don’t have sex”, Ridiculous! Imagine leaving only delicious sweet chocolate to eat and then saying “Don’t eat it” without any other possibilities? How long would you last?

Now I have 4 children who have been or are going through the school system and it does not appear much has changed. The focus is still on the biological, disease and no pregnancy. Sexuality, Sensuality, Intimacy, Connection is far greater than these options, no matter how old or young at heart you are there is always room for improvement, deeper levels of intimacy and connection and variety of skills to be felt and had.

What scares us about learning about sex? Is it a reminder of being at school or the awkward conversation with your parents or friends you had that you were uncomfortable with? Is it because we are just supposed to know? Or maybe it is because this topic is arousing – maybe I will be embarrassed?

We tend to only speak about sexuality to our partners or doctors (and sometimes not even then) or make jokes with our friends, we don’t have a context for speaking openly, clearly with someone a professional whose role it is to make discovering sexuality safe, comfortable and an engaging learning environment.

Once people have attended a workshop or become a client they realise I am very down to earth, I share enough to give the picture without TOO much, I use language that is correct anatomically with enough fun and laughter to ease the nerves, I give space for people to share at the level of their willingness, I deliver the skills and knowledge in a way that doesn’t feel like learning because we are curious in a safe environment and enjoying each others company.

Soon into a workshop you can feel the nerves shift, the guards come down, the moment we realise ‘Wow! I am not alone, other people don’t know this stuff’. It is liberating to find out how you can add to your bag of tricks, what adjustments and questions you might ask for honing your skills with your Lover which in turn means both of you are enjoying giving and receiving and I know this is an out there thought… when we enjoy it… we usually want MORE?

Shame is something lots of us carry, one of the ways to move through it, is in group environments, sharing (to any level) dispels the myths, stories, beliefs we have created in our own bodies and lives and gives FREEDOM to express ourselves authentically to us.

Whichever way you choose to learn, it is practice that is the key.

To find out about my upcoming workshops or programs click the link here Workshops and Events

Award winning Myola Woods, is an Author, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, International Intimacy & Relationship Coach.
Myola is a pioneer with courage who bravely speaks about the things that make most of us uncomfortable… Myola will gently lead you out of your comfort zone and into the zone of personal growth and higher self awareness.
Myola specialises in teaching individuals and couples the art of connection, creating and cultivating the choice of arousal, to deepen intimacy, sensation and pleasure … even if it has been a very long time!

As a Sexual being, mother of 4 teenagers and pleasure enthusiast, Myola appreciates the time constraints, daily and social pressures, that can play havoc on our erotic lives. Myola teaches ways to explore and enhance your love making in everyday life. Using techniques and practices that can turn you, and your life, ON.
Take your intimate life from ordinary to extraordinary! Have the orgasms you have read and dreamed about….. YOU deserve them!

So, if you have had enough of mediocre, ready for change and desiring intimacy, connection and arousal, STOP wishing and hoping and START Now! Contact Myola TODAY!. myola@eroticcoaching.com.au

Increase your sexual connection through masterful touch

 So excited to be featured as a Sexpert on Adult Match Maker and included in their blogs. Touch is so important, the quality and how do we ask and receive the touch we crave and desire.

 Share with your friends, try out the tips and let me know how you went – love to hear.

 
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How female ejaculators are making the world a better place!

Did you know only 6% of women ejaculate regularly?

Over 50% of women have had some liquid during orgasm

Are you one of these? Have you ever had the urge to pee during s>e>x and held back?

This is often one of the telltale signs of ejaculation coming, most of us usually stop at this point.

The demonstration:

Imagine this: I am at an ejaculation demonstration. I was standing at the end of a massage table as close to the ‘business’ end as possible. In front of me was a lady standing holding a large container (about the size of 2 litre ice cream container), the brave woman on the table was giving an ejaculation demonstration, the facilitator was as per their agreement was rubbing her G spot enthusiastically and vigorously, the woman’s partner was holding her hand and about 30 people were in the room, mostly holding their breath and you could almost hear a pin drop… in between the sounds of pleasure enveloped the room as the woman on the table arousal grew and grew.

If you have ever been uncomfortable with sounds of pleasure from another room in a hotel or your friend got lucky and you didn’t or most unbearable your parents… I am sure you can only imagine what it was like for both the brave woman demonstrating and the room full of spectators.

I had heard of ejaculation, I had never seen it, the brave woman was a seasoned and explosive ejaculator hence the large container being held in front of her, I found out – as you can imagine all this was a little off putting and it took a bit longer than normal.

With a silent room bar the delights of pleasure eventually the brave woman did ejaculate and from my close point of view it was absolutely amazing at the point of surrender and extreme orgasm her body bared down, her pelvis and vagina opened, and fluid gushed out… it reminded me of giving birth (not that I saw my children being born) the sensation and feeling of letting go and boom there’s a baby’s head. The room also let out an almighty sigh!!

Apparently, she did not have as much fluid as she normally would, however, it certainly opened my eyes to greater possibilities.

I spoke with this brave woman later expressing my gratitude for her vulnerability and  we discussed how she felt, confirming the baring down and opening sensations and actions, which was useful information because I already had the somatic / body memory for this.

The journey:

This was the beginning of my journey into female ejaculation…

All genders can orgasm and ejaculate, and we have the equipment to do it, which was the purpose of the demonstration I attended nearly 10 years ago was to remove the myths and barriers holding women’s sexuality from being fully expressed.

I hear you asking “Why Myola? Why?” and “if it is possible why is it not so common”?.

Mostly women with Vulvas are not encouraged to explore pleasure, little girls get chastised for touching themselves, society over sexualizes women but they aren’t supposed to like or enjoy having sex.

The ancients knew of female ejaculation and called it ‘Amrita nectar of the gods’ and often thought of as a clearing of emotions and bringing new waters to the body.

We are remembering our sexualness and orgasmicness empowerment, even though we can ejaculate it is often a journey, in my own experience and working with my many clients. A journey of self-discovery, allowing pleasure to have its way, to be fully in the body, to follow the sensations and prompts from the building arousal and be vulnerable with yourself and your partner is this very open, blissful, surrendered, deep intimate space, not to mention you might make a mess!

When a woman learns, embodies, knows her ejaculations, her level of trust, confidence, wholeness, love and intimacy has had a total upgrade on all levels – Orgasm 2.0 installed!

If you are curious, want to know specific techniques, for your body, mind and soul with the practicalities or you just want to upgrade to Orgasm 2.0, come and join us for my Ejaculating orgasm online webinar series, we have teachings, embodiment meditations and play sheets…https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ejaculating-orgasms-the-series-tickets-46802365134

If you know you want your relationships to have long term satisfaction in all areas and you are tired of being turned off contact me today for a sacred conversation.
https://myolawoodsprivatediscussion.as.me/?appointmentType=1307433

Myola Woods is an Author, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, International Intimacy & Relationship Coach and Winner of the Altitude Awards, Rising Star – Brave Award 2018.

Contact Myola TODAY!. myola@eroticcoaching.com.au

 

3 Ways Orgasms can assist your personal development…

Ooo la la, when I say orgasm people get flushed, embarrassed, excited and I bet you have never thought of them as a way of increasing your personal development.

Orgasms are very personal, and if you are not having them, it’s very personal. Orgasms are also very powerful, they contract the body, send happy and good feeling hormones, give a sense of wellbeing, assist with pain reduction, build connector neurons with our Lovers. They can take us to states of bliss, ecstasy and communing with the cosmos.

Often we think our orgasms come from someone else doing something to us, the truth is our orgasmicness comes from ourselves and then we can share add to with someone else.

Our orgasms are a reflection of our lives, are we basking in the glory of them are we too busy running around with our ‘to do’ lists to even think about them, are you hoping one day you will finally get that ultimate fulfilling climax – like the movies.  Are you comfortable – have a reasonable orgasm when you have sex, but you don’t want to go into the realm of ecstasy or deeper more intense, you are just fine. Are you uptight and don’t even know where to begin with an orgasm?  Read my ONE IN EVERY 5 WOMEN NEVER ORGASM!… That Is A Problem… I HAVE THE SOLUTION!! Here…

ONE IN EVERY 5 WOMEN NEVER ORGASM!… That Is A Problem… I HAVE THE SOLUTION!!

 

There are many ways being curious and conscious about our orgasms helps our personal development, let’s begin with 3:

 

1. Connection:

For any orgasms, then as we delve deeper and more have more intense ones (yes more than one is possible) we need connection:

Firstly, to our bodies, to know and trust them, it is unrealistic to expect someone else to know your body if you don’t – it can and does happen and even in these cases imagine the possibilities if both of you know your body- wowzer! Getting to know and be comfortable with your body is a practice often daily, noticing what it likes and doesn’t, slowing down enough to notice what is actually going on, being present with ourselves.

Secondly, to your partner, are you feeling safe, are you in sync together are you noticing and attending to each other from your own body or are you in their head trying to work out what is going on.

Connection requires a revealing of ourselves, how much do you reveal will depend on how you orgasm… Are you willing to reveal more of you?

2. Responsibility:

Who is responsible for your orgasm…?

Who do you think, is it you? Them? Or something else?

Essentially you are responsible for your orgasm, we can always choose not to orgasm, this is a space of knowing if your body wants to climax or to circulate or ?. This is not usually the case, often when we don’t orgasm it is because we held back, went into our heads, didn’t ask for what we want, need or desire (does not mean we will get it), or our Lover was selfish and didn’t play, last or get connected enough for you to have an orgasm.

As you work through, how will I ask for what I need? How will I stay connected to my body and my partners without going into my head? How will I say to my partner ‘I would like us to play more, I would like to slow down and enjoy and savour each moment of our love making, I would like us to grow into a space of mutual pleasure?’

Which leads us beautifully to vulnerability.

3. Vulnerability:

Being vulnerable is often seen as a weakness and we think people will judge us and the truth is it actually brings us closer together.

We connect, we see beyond the persona, the masks, the roles often into someone’s soul their hearts and their authenticity. This level of depth creates intimacy and connection faster than anything else, it does not need to be soppy and sad.

• Vulnerability is sharing that place in you that you hide from others.
• Vulnerability is risking speaking, showing parts of you that you think others will judge.
• Vulnerability is being raw, authentic and open without expectation of the outcome.

I have had to work hard here, being vulnerable, trusting myself and others is still a major learning for me and I know when I have this sensation in my belly and heart that it is time, it is time to express, be seen and let the chips go where they need to go.

Connection, Responsibility and Vulnerability will lead you to greater more satisfying orgasms if you would like support and are interested in more contact me today for a sacred conversation.
https://myolawoodsprivatediscussion.as.me/?appointmentType=1307433

Our lives are not separate, when we increase these areas in our intimacy they reflect in all other parts when we can ask our partners for…?, have discussions around our hidden parts – space frees up and we behave in the world with more genuine authentic interactions.

Myola Woods is an Author, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, International Intimacy & Relationship Coach and Winner of the Altitude Awards, Rising Star – Brave Award 2018.

Contact Myola TODAY!. myola@eroticcoaching.com.au

SEX Is Everywhere… But Please Don’t Mention It!

Generally speaking I call myself The Erotic Coach, and yes just like a business coach helps you with your business and a sports coach with your athletic endeavors, I work with people in their erotic lives, intimate lives, relationships, communication, sensuality, sexuality and be their authentic selves.

Most of us have grown up with society, religious, family and school ideas about sex, often it is not about pleasure, sensation, curiosity and fun… Wouldn’t you agree?

Recently I was the Winner of the Altitude Award ‘Rising Star – Brave Award 2018’ this was so surprising and thrilling for me!.

Surprising because often when I speak of my work people usually have two reactions:

1. They want to run away, wish the floor would open up and they could disappear, I imagine because they are embarrassed about their own love life?

2. They are totally intrigued (for their friend of course).

In the past when I have applied for expos / festivals, I have incidences where I have been told the event is full and others have said to me “no it’s not but for me it was full” Or people are rude to me because my work involves the discussion of sex and intimacy.

When I speak at networking events often there is a giggle or a joke, I am totally up for fun. I do wonder though if they would think it ok to giggle when my client is sharing about their abuse that they have never told before, the trauma from a miscarriage, the body holding on so tightly afraid from being raped, the shame of getting an STi and general terrible information we have been given about our bodies, sexuality, sensuality and intimacy. I don’t think so either, often it is easier for us to deflect an uncomfortable emotion than to sit with it and notice what is happening in our own bodies. What do you do?

I know from my own experiences that healing, integrating and owning my sexuality, sensuality and intimacy was a very deep personal development project, nothing like I had experienced before. Speaking of these so called ‘taboo’ subjects brings normality – personally I am not into shock tactics, coarse language and creating more divide. I am about bringing safety, wholeness and naturalness to our intimate lives. I am by no means a saint, I am a Mother of 4 teenagers, they see the best and the worst of me and I hope to do my best for a better world for them.

A New Paradigm

In order for us to have a different more sustainable paradigm with our sexuality we need it to be integrated, develop long term new habits, healing of the old patterns and ways. We need new skills for deep connection, love, communication, vulnerability, embodiment, curiosity and practice.

This is what I bring to the world, I started with energetic healing, mediation and body work nearly 25 years ago, with formal education qualifications, I have discovered the space that makes me sing is teaching and healing; the trauma and pain, unloved parts of us, sensuality, sexuality, intimacy, connection, curiosity through embodiment and safety of the body.

My clients get my spirituality, psychic intuitive, educator, sexological bodyworker all rolled into one, the changes that happen to and with them is nothing short of phenomenal.

My clients experiences…

• Feeling flat, lethargic, not interested in sex to energized, full of zest for life and living, desiring their partner and initiating intimacy.
• Feeling disconnected, no intimacy, wondering is this the end of the relationship to developing connection, intimacy, trust, curiosity, sacredness and deepening love.
• Having had a number of poor relationships, feeling like they lack trust in their decisions, alone, unworthy, lacking skills in the bedroom to knowing the relationship, partner they desire and deserve, developing confidence in their body, self esteem, connection and skills as a lover.
• Pain in the body, pelvis, genitals, disconnected from their sexuality, sexual selves not trusting their body to moving through the pain and into pleasure.
• Knowing there is more… their sexual life is fine, satisfying mostly, somewhere in their being they know that more is possible, and they are not sure how to achieve this. After developing skills and knowledge of tantra, connection, deep introspection, they increase their embodiment of love, pleasure, sensation, arousal for connected intimate love making and ecstatic sexual experiences.

It brings me so much joy, enthusiasm and vigour to bring this work to you and the world. If your intimate life isn’t how you’d like it to be, you might like to start with a conversation. With me. Here’s how you make it happen:  https://myolawoodsprivatediscussion.as.me/

Myola Woods is an Author, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, International Intimacy & Relationship Coach and Winner of the Altitude Awards, Rising Star – Brave Award 2018.

Contact Myola TODAY! myola@eroticcoaching.com.au 0423919270 www.eroticcoaching.com.au