How to befriend your body part 1
How do we befriend our body – when we’ve treated it like an enemy Part 1
Compassion
Often our bodies are instruments of forgetfulness, disconnection, mistrust and abandonment.
Can you relate to any or all of these?
I am often asked how do feel more pleasure, have more desire and be aware of what my body wants intimately and otherwise?
My answer is the same – we need to make friends with our bodies, they are our expression as human beings on the planet. To experience more sensation, pleasure, and knowledge, we need a greater level of embodiment.
Where the eff do I start, is what I hear you and many others saying.
Despite the number of ways we abandon, reject, disconnect and disassociate from our bodies because we want to survive, the body is great at surviving. Our brains are designed to survive at all costs, let’s be thankful for this, for it getting us this far – it has done an amazing job.
When we have operations, experience trauma, abuse, violence, are subject to misinformation and societal pressures of what is normal, unthoughtful comments, stereotypes from porn and Hollywood, it is easy to disregard our bodies, not pay attention and create an unloving and unkind environment.
With this in mind, firstly let’s stop the war!!!
Let’s press pause on the neutral or negative thoughts and behaviours.
Let’s find compassion for ourselves in a world that has set unrealistic expectations on every part of our lives.
Activity
Bringing compassion into your body
Sit for just a moment and find this compassion in your body and breathe into it, breathe it into your hands and put your hands over your heart and imagine this compassion filling your body.
Continue to breathe until you are completely filled with your own compassion.
Do this as many times as it takes to find, feel and fill your body with compassion, notice how this is in your body.
What is happening to your body as your compassion grows?
This is a great activity to include in your daily rituals and begin befriending your body from a place of compassion and not hate.
The war inside will stop, the thoughts of betrayal and unworthiness will lessen and then cease.
Approach with trust
Imagine your body as a scared animal, you need to build trust, consistency, no fast movements. We would approach the scared animal with steadiness, kindness, compassion and we may eventually get them to trust us enough to pat and or hold them.
Our bodies are the same, give the compassion a try – let me know how you go and then we will move to letting the body lead, one step at a time.
Want to know more, stay tuned, the ‘how to steps’ is in part 2 coming soon…
Myola Woods, is an Author, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, EMDR Practitioner and International Intimacy & Relationship Coach. She specialises in bringing awareness and healing to the parts that are holding us back (fear, trauma, disconnection and disassociation) to reveal our authentic fully expressed selves. Myola guides individuals and couples with the art of connection, creating and cultivating the choice of arousal, to deepen intimacy, sensation and pleasure.
myola@eroticcoaching.com.au www.eroticcoaching.com.au